你缺少感恩之心吗？ 年纪越大就越爱花时间回忆青春，回忆那些曾对我们如何做事及做人产生过重大影响的人和事。 无可避免地我们会回忆起父母说过的话，包括那些经常挂在嘴边的忠告。至少有些时候，尽管思绪早已飞到九霄云外，我们还能摆出一副认真聆听的样子。但其他时候，特别是十几岁时，我们干脆充耳不闻。 不知为何，这些忠告在后来的日子里一遍遍地对着我们重播。当时，我们似乎并没有留意，但最终却都吸收了进去，就像海绵吸水那样，将信息沉淀了下来。 最近我回忆起一个例子，是先父曾经倡导的人生观，他谓之曰“感恩态度”。它的本意是每天要开始于感恩生活中的美好，对那些不太美好的事要随遇而安。与之相反的是每天都纠结于霉运、状态不理想等等，陷入抱怨和寻找借口的心态。 贪婪是感恩的敌人，它衰弱感恩培养出的正能量，释放能削弱自强和团队精神的盲目自私。 人们很容易忘记感恩的态度是一种自我选择，贪婪亦然。它们环绕在我们周围，而选择权就在我们自己手中。 无论生活抛在前路上的困难有多么崎岖跌宕，身边总有人烦恼要比我们更多。认识到这一点有助于更加平衡和积极地看待问题。 治疗过致命疾病的医生都有丰富的案例可以证明，态度积极的病人其生存和治愈率普遍高于消极的病人。 因此，我很感激父亲关于感恩的教诲。这让我受益良多，但也需要不时提醒自己。其实我们每个人都需要这样。 下面是一些关于感恩的名言，有助于提醒我们记住感恩在生活和工作中的重要性。 “感恩开启生命的圆满，将既得变为富足，将拒绝变为接受，将混乱变为有序，将迷惑变为清晰，将餐食变为盛宴，将房屋变为家园，将陌路变为朋友。”——美国自助文学作家梅洛迪•贝蒂 “表达感恩时千万不要忘记，至高的谢意不是口吐莲花，而是身体力行。”——美国第35任总统约翰•肯尼迪 “树立感恩的态度，感谢发生在身上的每一件事，理解每前进一步都是朝比现在更大、更好的结局迈进了一步。”——美国演说家、企业家、教育家博恩•崔西 “我描写尝试的力量，因为我希望接受失败。我描写慷慨，因为我要战胜自私。我描写欢乐，因为我品尝过悲伤。我描写忠诚，因为我几乎失去它，知道它被什么打败并需要救赎。我描写感恩，因为我对所有的一切心存感激。”——克里斯廷•阿姆斯特朗 “给自己一份礼物——花五分钟冥想，对身边一切可见的事物表示敬畏。走出去，关注周围众多的奇迹。这个五分钟感恩养生法将帮你将生命专注于敬畏。”——美国知名作家、演说家韦恩•戴尔 “谈到生活，最重要的是你将一切都当作理所应当，还是心怀感恩。”——英国作家、诗人吉尔伯特•切斯特顿 （以上名言摘录，感谢https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes） 总之，有一件事可以确定，感恩的态度是一张可以中奖的彩票。 | Are You Lacking in Gratitude? As we get older we spend more time reflecting on our youth. We think about the people and events which have had the most impact on what we’ve done, and who we’ve become. Inevitably, we reflect on things our parents used to say, some of which were often-repeated pieces of advice. At least some of the time, we appeared to be listening, although our minds may have been somewhere else. At other times, it was apparent we weren’t listening at all, especially during teenage years. Somehow, in later years we hear these words of advice replayed to us, again and again. Even though we didn’t seem to be paying attention at the time, it turns out that we absorbed the advice like a sponge takes in water. The message sunk in after all. One example I have been thinking about lately is an outlook on life which my dear late Father used to advocate. He called it “an attitude of gratitude”, which essentially means starting each day being grateful for the good things in your life, and making the best of the not-so-good ones. The alternative is to dwell on your bad luck, less than ideal circumstances, etc., and slip into a mentality of complaining and excuse-making. Greed is the enemy of gratitude. It saps the positive energy which gratitude can foster, and unleashes blind selfishness which undermines self-improvement and teamwork. It’s easy to forget that an attitude of gratitude is a choice we make. The same is true of greed. It’s all around us, yet the choices are up to us. No matter how rough and tumble the challenges which life throws in our path, there are always people nearby with problems much more vexing than our own. Recognition of this helps us achieve a more balanced and positive outlook. Medical doctors experienced in dealing with life-threatening illness cite ample evidence that patients with a positive outlook generally have a higher prospect of survival and cure than those who are preoccupied with the negative. I’m grateful, therefore, for my Dad’s advice about gratitude. It has served me well. And yet, I need reminders from time to time. We all do. Here is a selection of quotable quotes on the subject of gratitude to help remind us of its importance in our lives and work. “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” -- Melody Beattie “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” -- John F. Kennedy “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”-- Brian Tracy “I write about the power of trying, because I want to be okay with failing. I write about generosity because I battle selfishness. I write about joy because I know sorrow. I write about faith because I almost lost mine, and I know what it is to be broken and in need of redemption. I write about gratitude because I am thankful - for all of it.” -- Kristin Armstrong “Give yourself a gift of five minutes of contemplation in awe of everything you see around you. Go outside and turn your attention to the many miracles around you. This five-minute-a-day regimen of appreciation and gratitude will help you to focus your life in awe.” -- Wayne Dyer “When it comes to life the critical thing is whether you take things for granted or take them with gratitude.”-- Gilbert K. Chesterton (For the quotable quotes above, thanks to: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes) In conclusion, one thing is for sure. An attitude of gratitude is a winning ticket. |
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